Game On with Vanessa Rende

The REAL Meaning of Your Life is This, Not That

September 18, 2019
Game On with Vanessa Rende
The REAL Meaning of Your Life is This, Not That
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Game On with Vanessa Rende
The REAL Meaning of Your Life is This, Not That
Sep 18, 2019
Vanessa Rende
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Everyone has a purpose in life. Eventually, we get tired of settling, feeling unhappy and existing in a reality full of stress, worry and confusion. 

In this blog, I share the real meaning of life for all of us. Plus tips on how to start shifting your reality today. 

www.Vanessarende.com

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Hey, what's up, everyone? Thank you for tuning into game on within a surrender. I am your host, Vanessa, Randy. And this is my one of a kind, audio blogged experience where I share riel and raw truth stories, messages from my soul to soul searching leaders who are ready to play life by their rules, challenge other limits and make massive shifts inside and out. Today I want to talk about the meaning of your life. It's this, not that I think we all get to a point during our lives whether some of us choose to do something about it or not, where we start questioning the meaning of life where we wonder if this is it, you know, like the popular quote says, Are we really just meant to live and pay bills and die? And today I was thinking about how so many of us get stuck in the life that we think were dealt. We get stuck working at jobs that we don't like, because we tell ourselves that we need the paycheck. We get stuck in relationships that we no, we've outgrown because we tell ourselves that it's gonna be too difficult to start over or a number of other reasons. We get stuck even in religions and and, you know, spiritually and religious communities feeling judged by other people in the community because we feel like there's an expectancy of us like we're supposed to do things a certain way, follow rules, a certain way of the church, of their translation of the Bible or whatever. And at the end of the day, we get to this point in our lives where we're experiencing everything except for the main reason we were created, which is joy, you know, and you can call it guides source the universe, whatever you want. If you're listening to me, if you follow any of my work, um, I use the word guide. I believe in a higher power, the people that I work with and the messages that I share our two leaders, that air soul searching. So a lot of these people like me, we've had massive success. We know what it's like to have a lot of money. We know what it's like to have good relationships, bad relationships, but at the end of the day, we end up searching for the meaning of it. all which we know and understand. That has to be more than all of that more than just being successful in the eyes of society. More than just having a fat bank account more than just being a trophy wife for having all the possessions and materials that make you, you know, lives super comfortably. There's more to life than that. But even so, searching leaders, I think everybody, everybody gets to this and maybe especially leaders and entrepreneurs and visionaries, because we feel this responsibility to unleash what's inside of us to continuously grow and improve and demand more of ourselves not because we're not being grateful for because it's never enough. And I'm not saying that that may not be your situation. You may just be dealing with a lack of gratitude and and and some other things, and by all means, you gotta really do your own soul searching and figure that out. But what I mean is that we just feel this huge responsibility to to do better, because we know that we have it in us to do better, right and we're grateful for what we have and we look back and we see how far we've come and how much we've accomplished. But we can't sleep at night knowing that were settling, knowing that we're playing small, knowing that we're stuck in a relationship that we've outgrown, knowing that we're in a job where we're smarter than everybody, that we work for right, knowing that we're basically doing all of these soul sucking things every day, our day, our thoughts, our feelings, our energy revolves around the stress and the worry of this life that we have, and we just we failed to do the one thing we were created to do. The one thing we all share and we all have in common is that we were created to experience joy and happiness and abundance and everything else that's positive, right? And God did not create you to struggle, to suffer, to peel, to feel pain, to be miserable, to be unhappy, right. And I think it really, really gets to me because I spent an era in my life where it was just a few years, maybe four or five years, where I tried to become a very religious person, which is not who I've been before. I was raised, calling myself a Catholic and we hardly ever went to church unless it was like a super special event. Like a baby was getting baptized or something. I never got my communion. I couldn't tell you more. You know, I couldn't tell you what living as a Catholic is. I could only tell you what I learned in college when I did just a lot of studies and reports and papers. On contrast ing in comparison, the different religions it was for philosophy class, which I enjoyed tremendously in which opened my eyes up significantly. But it still didn't stop me from getting to a point in my life where I was so searching so deeply where I was hurting so bad and trying to find the meaning of my own life of my existence and how I can feel worthy of love and worthy of the things that I want and deserving of it. And, you know, we all look to God at one point or another. And and my thing Waas I wanted to be loved by God. And like so many others, I fell into the trap of This is the right way of doing it. This is what the Bible really means this is what this really means. This is how you're supposed to dress. This is how you're supposed to talk. It drove me crazy the entire time, but it was also served a huge purpose in my life, which will share in other blog's and messages through you guys. However, being in that, I can relate to a lot of people that where the God mask that they are unhappy and miserable and settling because God expects them to work on their marriage or God expects them to be forgiving of the person that keeps hurting them, whether it's a spouse or a family member or a friend. Got expects you to go to church and blindly follow a pastor and his interpretations of the Bible. And I went through that and inside of me. I always fought it. I questioned everything. It took me a while to even try to become that person. I fully never embodied it, and that era in my life ended in divorce and essentially in me not only coming back to who I am, but remembering more so than ever who I am and what I'm here to do and So that's just one of the mass that we wear. And that's why I started talking about God first. Maybe it's just really fresh in my mind, and I wanted to bring it up. But I am going to share different mass with you, um, of just things that we allow to come over us and become our purpose without even realizing it. Inadvertently, those things become the purpose of our life, the meaning of our life. And we don't even realize that we're stuck in this cycle for days, months. Let's be really years, years before we realized this is not the way it's supposed to be. It's not supposed to be hard. It's not supposed to hurt all the time. I'm not supposed to be miserable and unhappy and, you know, for the people wearing their religious mass, I just want to say to you like Ask yourself if this is what guide would really want or if this is what your pastor or your preacher want. This is what their interpretation of your Bible wants. If this is what the whole community in that church has gathered together and they're concensus off what it should be like because at the end of the day, you're nowhere in that equation. You're somewhere else. Still feeling miserable and unhappy and settling and wondering At the end of the day. How could God want this for me? How can I make this right? God loves me. He created me to be happy and joyous to experience the wonderful things in life. But you know what he also gave me? Ah, Huge, huge, huge power. The power of choice. Which is why most of us are not most of us. This is this. The power of choice is why all of us are where we are today. By one way or another, your choices have led you to where you are today. We put on the mass of the jobs that I mentioned. You have to stay at a job that you hate. That sucking your soul that you're smarter than everybody. More experienced than everybody overqualified. It doesn't matter. Something that's just not a line with your big vision and dreams. Why? Because you tell yourself that you need the paycheck, that it's gonna be hard to find another job. We create all these walls and all these blocks for ourselves because we forget that it's not supposed to be like that. We forget that it's not supposed to be like that. So we make that the priority. The paycheck is the priority. Who cares if I if I hate my life if I hate my job? If I hate my you know, waking up every day and going to this job that doesn't fulfill me. That doesn't That doesn't make me feel like I'm living my purpose. No, no, no. Excuse me, the paycheck. That's the purpose in the meaning of life. So I'll just stay at this job for 40 years while it slowly eats away at my soul. Because the paycheck is the meaning of life. I have to be responsible. I have to do the right thing. None of us do this on purpose, You guys, most of the time, this is all just coming from our subconscious programming rules, decisions that we made about how life is supposed to be when we were a child, when we went through a hardship or trauma or a bad relationship. Our environment, our family members are siblings. All of that has contributed, and also and right ultimately, your choices because at some point you grew up and you can no longer blame your parents, right? Maybe they programmed you a certain way that you are now trying to correct, correct and improve. But at the end of the day, like if you're an adult and you're still blaming your parents or your environment or anybody other than yourself for where you're at right now, you have a big bucket of ice cold water coming to you. Sooner or later, we hide behind the mask of relationship marriages, especially in any. It's even harder for the people that are in religious sects. Because then we feel this huge responsibility to not disappoint guide by getting a divorce, even though we are miserable every day, fighting every day, hating life. Every day, one person goes off in cheats or one person lets himself go because they're miserable and they're emotions. They start eating their emotions, and all the while you're you're you're trying to please God, but you're not right or you think you're doing the right thing for your kid. But you're not, because what you're doing is you're programming them to see life that way to see love that way to see marriages that way. T end up feeling stuck at one point in their lives or another like everybody does and to basically tell themselves that they have no other options but to stay there, that that's what they're supposed to do, that that's the right thing, that that's the normal thing, even if they feel like shit. Do you see how this is like the biggest disease of all of humanity? And it looks different for everybody and you guys, I am no exception. I am not exempt from any of this. I am. I bring this message to you today because I have been there so many times in my own life, in my own existence, by my own choices, right that I can't tell you enough how this information and being aware of this and and and really leaning into this information and making a disciplined, conscious effort to remind myself of this every day has changed my life. Right. At the end of the day, I don't have all the answers about what you're going to do when you quit your job or leave your marriage or start your own business or go back to school or start writing a book or go to the gym. I don't have all the answers, right. Unless I work with you one on one. I can't even give you advice. But what I can tell you is that at any moment, at any given moment in your life, in any situation that you are in, you have an emotional compass inside of you that has the answers. And if you're not feeling joy or some sort of positivity, right, because sometimes doing the align thing is scariest shit. Sometimes it's uncomfortable, and we know that we want to do it. We know that it needs to be done. We know that it's the right thing to do, but we're scared and we're feel fearful. And we have all these doubts and all these worries because we've been doing the opposite for so long. That, of course, you're going to doubt yourself, and you're gonna worry, and you're gonna wonder. But there's still that still small voice inside of you, that nagging sort of pull that doesn't go away because you know that that's what needs to be done. And in that nagging Poul, there is excitement and there is hope, and that is positive. So, yeah, I have. Some people say, Well, sometimes it doesn't always feel good. It's not about the rainbows and the unicorns. It's about really tuning into yourself. Most people don't realize that they're wasting years of their lives making the meaning and the purpose of their life the total opposite of joy and expansion, expansion and happiness. Because they're not paying attention to the way that they really feel they're attributing it to normal. Stress is not normal. Worrying is not normal. Obsessing about money from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep is not normal. And if right after I said that, you said, Yeah, but that's just everything you say after that. But is just all of the stories. You're telling yourself all of the limits that you have working against you and all of the blocks that you have the power to remove, because it is it is not meant to be like that. And wherever you are right now in your life, whether it's at a dead end job, whether you're struggling with your bills, whether you're making a massive amount of money, but you still hate your life and are wondering what the hell's going on. You have the power to change that and telling yourself that you're helpless or hopeless or that it's hard or that it's going to take time, or that it's gonna Those are all just words and labels that you are using toe further. Sabotage yourself to further hold yourself back from stepping into the unknown, believing in yourself, trusting in yourself and pursuing on Lee on Lee on Lee on Lee. What you're meant to pursue in this life. Joy, happiness, abundance, expansion. I'm not saying that life is not going to get uncomfortable. I'm not saying that we're not meant to sometimes go through uncomfortable things that we choose, because ultimately there's a lesson that we know inside of a somewhere. Even if we don't realize it consciously, that needs to be learned before we could move to the next level. That's not what I'm saying, but what I'm saying is that your choices do extend toe whether you choose happiness, enjoy every single day. Despite the situation that you may be in right now, so many of us spend such a long time thinking that this is it. Life is happening to me. I am a mom. So I'm supposed to be stressed, You know, I work a 9 to 5. So I'm supposed to give my life to this job until I retire. And then I guess I'll figure out my life after I retire. Why the hell would you have to await to you retire to start living your life? Why do you have the weight to your kids? Grow up and move away To do the things that make you feel alive and complete to be yourself. No apologies, no filters, authentically true to who you are to your own self. When you look in the mirror and to the rest of the world, why should you have to spend one more moment and one more second feeling stress, feeling unhappy feeling like you're not loved, they're taking care of and you're not appreciated and you're just not in the right place. You're not surrounded by the right people. Why should you have to spend one more moment living like that? That is not the meaning and the purpose of your life and in any moment in any situation from this day forward of you choose to accept this challenge. I challenge you. I challenge you when you are in the depths of your misery, your frustration, your unhappiness, your impatience, your bitterness. You're just Ah, you know you're settling. You're playing small. You know your habits are driving you crazy even though you know that you have the power to change them. But you're just in that place where you're like, what the hell? I challenge you to take a step back and look at your emotional compass and ask yourself, Why do you really feel like that? And when you get the answer, ask yourself why? And when you get that answer, ask yourself. Why keep digging deeper and deeper until you get to the core of that negative feeling, and when you know what the core is, choose differently. It doesn't have to be resolved. It doesn't have to be healed automatically. You may not see rainbows and sparkles and unicorns in front of you like like most of us won't see that. Realistically speaking, I'm just saying What I'm saying is that the choice, the choice to to dig deep into the reality that you've been living whether it's misery, settling, unhappiness, whatever, to dig deep into it right, and to figure out the core, the root cause of it to embrace it for what it is. And then to say, I see you and I release you. I don't choose you anymore. I choose to be happy. I choose to live in joy. I choose me. I know that some of you are gonna listen to this and be like, Oh, it's not that easy. Yeah, I've decided that I'm gonna live happy a bunch of times. And then things keep happening to me that it added up. Watch out for the victim pitfalls because that is just another indication that you are not living your purpose and that you do not fully understand the meaning of your life. You are not anybody or anything's victim. You're not a victim to any man or woman to any job to anything that your parents did to anything that Trump is doing right now. You are not a victim, Tau anything or to anyone. And the sooner that you confront your reality right now down to its root cause even if you have no idea how you're gonna overcome and how you're going to hell it how you're going to retrain yourself to live, Enjoy. You make that damn choice right then and there and you make it again in an hour and you make it again in 30 minutes and you wake up every day with all of your focus and intention and attention on making that choice. And some days you're gonna have to make it once a day and fly through the day and flow and happiness and things were going to slip off of you like you're coated in butter. But guess what shit happens. Other days you're gonna have to choose that every hour, every minute you're gonna have to do whatever it is that you have to do to stay disciplined and focused to that joy into that happiness. Because ultimately, here's the kicker. The longer you allow yourself to drown and anything that's not joy, gratitude, happiness, appreciation, excitement, anticipation off the good that's coming, all the things that equal good to you, the longer that you allow yourself to sit in the opposite of those things, the longer you're going to continue to experience them, whatever they are, Whether it's related to love, money, family, friends, relationships. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. My biggest piece of advice to you is to take my challenge. Take my challenge started today. Start to look at your life and all the things that trigger you to feel negative emotions. And when you feel them, catch yourself. Take a moment to ask yourself, Where's it coming from? When you get the answer, ask yourself why? When you get that answer, ask yourself Why? Until you get down to the root of what's really happening and when you see it for what it e for what it is. Look at it, embrace it and then choose to release it. Choose to release it and in that same instance, shoes. Joy. Choose happiness. Choose something else. Force yourself to think about something that puts a smile on your face to listen to a song that makes you get up and jump for joy to go play with your Children. If that makes you laugh and forget the world to go sing a song. If that makes you forget that anybody's listening or watching, you are responsible for the way that you feel and you are responsible for choosing to live your purpose and your meaning, which is all the things that are good and positive and expensive to you. You are not here to just let the days pass to just feel like you have no control over anything. And if you believe in God and a higher power and all of that, you can insert him or it into all of this because if you believe in that higher power, why would they want you to suffer? Why would the meaning of your life be toe constantly being a struggle in pain, hurting lost and confused? It's not and anything in anybody that tells you that those air just sacrifices that you have to make to please God or to please this or that they're more lost than you are. Those were not the type of people or communities or friends or families or whatever that you want to surround yourself with. At the end of the day, it's all a choice. I want you to remember that. And if you've been feeling like shit for a long time, yeah, you're gonna feel some resistance. Of course you are. And of course you should not expect to take this challenge. 1234 even five days, depending on where you're at in your unique situation and expect expect it to be like a magic pill. You are where you are right now in your thought habits and your emotional set points because you've allowed yourself to go this far feeling helpless and hopeless. And I'm here to tell you to break those rules to create your own. You can choose happiness no matter what you're going through and what you're experiencing, and you can choose to see the resistance and go through it and walk through it every time, more and more as a practice, it gets easier until eventually you don't believe anymore that you were just made to pay bills and die. You start to believe your own truth that you were made to be happy, that you were made to feel good. And just by feeling good and feeling happy and being in your purpose of joy, you radiate that toe everybody around you without even knowing it without even doing it deliberately. So, yeah, if you're at a place where you feel like maybe you've tried this or this sounds like it's not gonna work. How can I just think a happy thought or how can I just stop feeling pissed off at this person or this situation and then just randomly go do something different to make myself happy? That sounds crazy. It may sound crazy to you because you're not doing it because you continue to be a slave to your emotions and your thoughts into those mass that you that of the world that tell you that it's normal for you to feel like shit. 24 7 So why don't you burst that bubble right now so you can see clearly what I'm trying to tell you what you already know to be truth in your heart and soul because it was placed in you when you were created. You can choose a different thought you can in a moment of rage or anger or despair. Depression, anxiety, notice what is happening to you. Cry if you need to cry, Scream if you need to scream, feel what you need to feel and then choose something different. Nobody can do it for you. Nobody can get behind your emotional wheel and drive you to a happy place and show you the things that light you up that make your heart feel good. That put a smile on your face when you don't even realize it. You know that you know the secret path to those emotions, and the longer you sit in them, the more you feel them, the easier it is to stay with them, the easier it is to access them, and the easier it is to attract more of them in every area of your life. I hope this has been helpful to you. If you love it, please share it. Subscribe. I'm on all the major platforms with this audio blogged. And if you'd like to learn more, I have a written blawg, private sessions and self study workshops that you confined on my website at vanessa randi dot com. Thanks again for listening. And remember, life is a game break all the rules
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